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Why Relationship Building is so Important

September 10, 2018 by Jim Peacock 4 Comments

Relationship Building requires time, energy, and consistent interaction.

–Relationship building while interviewing Dr. Niles–

Relationship building is where you can move your career forward. It is more than “networking” or communicating with your “connections”. Both these words, “networking” and ”connections” feel hollow to me. A “network”  has an old school feel to it like something business people do to sell something. A “connection” almost feels like a number to me.

A “relationship” is something that feels stronger and has more give and take. When you are building your relationships you get to tell your story about the real you. Your strengths, traits, values, interests, and passions are your story, so start telling it to everyone, everywhere you go. The real value in building and maintaining professional relationships is keeping yourself known so when opportunities DO come up, your professional relationships will think of you.

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————————Relationship building over zoom————————

Because so many professional relationships either start online or are maintained online, it is critical that you utilize the largest career database in the world, LinkedIn. Start with a strong profile (Start at the Beginning) and then engage online with “likes” “shares” and “comments” or creation of your own content. Each time you do one of these, it sends a message to your network about what is important to you. 

You can also be involved in any of the other social media platforms out there, Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, etc and when you are involved, always keep the filter of “relationship building” on in your background.

People will hire you when they know, like, and trust you. This happens when you share your story with others and offer help throughout the year and throughout your entire career. Building the relationship and maintaining that relationship is the key to your career development.

How do you do relationship building?

Relationship building over coffee.    🙂
This is a “flat Kate” that my niece’s daughter sent me to for a school project

Tip 1). Obviously online you can reach out to people who are writing on topics of interest to you and let them know you are reading their posts by “liking” “sharing” and “commenting”. I once read a National Career Development Association article in Career Convergence and was so interested in the topic that I reached out to the author and asked if we could Skype. She was more than happy to and I was thrilled to further explore the topic. That was about 4 or 5 years ago and occasionally I still reach out to Adry.

Tip 2). Identify someone in your network you have not talked to in a while. Reach out to them. A simple phone call is a great way to start but with the ability to video-conference so readily at our fingertips, this offers another great way to communicate with people in your network. For those people who are geographically closer, there is nothing like a coffee/tea, a meal, or beverage of choice, to keep moving forward on relationship building.

Tip 3). Another simple way to continue to build that relationship is to check in with your contacts and ask if they have any upcoming projects they are working on. You may then offer some advice, a helping hand, or refer them to someone you know who might be helpful to them. You can also bring up any big projects you have coming up and ask them if they have any advice.

By reaching out to people and working on relationship building, your network will be strong and continue to be strong. Yes, it takes effort to build and maintain relationships but the effort pays off in the long run as you never know who might help you sometime in the future. 

I call my brother weekly, video-conference monthly with my backpacking buddies Rees & Howard, call my dad weekly, and take my wife out to eat for date night once a week. Yes, there is time and energy spent but the payoffs are great. 

Richard Feller talks about the fact that you are the average of the six people you hang out with. As I look at my closest friends I realize that I get kindness from my brother, thoughtfulness from Rees, humor from Howard, and groundedness from my wife. I choose my friends wisely now that I know that.

I also believe you are the average of the six professionals you hang out with as well. That is why I grabbed a beer with James last week, am having lunch with Tammy next week, video-conferenced with Bob, and agreed to meet with Andrea last week. I learn from each of them and hopefully, they learn something from me. 

So get out of that comfort zone and move into your “stretch zone” where you actively build your relationships and don’t take them for granted.

Jim Peacock is the Principal at Peak-Careers Consulting and writes a monthly newsletter for career practitioners. Peak-Careers offers discussion-based online seminars for career practitioners focused on meeting continuing education needs for CCSP, GCDF and BCC certified professionals as well as workshops for career practitioners and individual career coaching.

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Networking – Ewwww…

August 3, 2016 by Jim Peacock 2 Comments

EWW

Why does the word “networking” conjure up such negative thoughts for people? Many of my clients and the students I have worked with seem to believe it is only for “professionals” dressed in suits, playing golf, and smoking cigars. That image is not MY image of networking. So I asked myself, “What do I need to do to help explain networking to my clients?”

I searched LinkedIn for articles on networking and I found 214,500+ articles and the majority are focused on “What NOT to do”. Whew! Where to start? So I decided to post a discussion in the NCDA LinkedIn group and to email some key people in my network. I picked up many great ideas as well as confirmation on a number of my thoughts on this topic.

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Developing Your Network One Drip – One Drop at a Time.

October 9, 2015 by Jim Peacock Leave a Comment

Career development is all personal. People do not hire resumes. People do not connect with texts or emails. It’s always been, and probably always will be, human contact that matters. Paper and electronic communication should be tools to create human contact or to maintain relationships.

Notice I did not say that evil word, networking. Not sure why but the word networking causes anxiety with some people. Maybe it is too stuffy or old school. Regardless of why it doesn’t resonate with many people, I have begun calling it “relationship building”.

Think of relationship building as the drip on your faucet. You can fill a sink with a dripping faucet but it will take awhile. Relationship building does not happen by “turning on the faucet”.  The friends you have today did not happen because you walked up to a perfect stranger and HUGGED them 🙂 Oh my…that is a visual, isn’t it? I can only imagine my hockey buddy Pete running away from me the first time we meet and I hug him. [Read more…] about Developing Your Network One Drip – One Drop at a Time.

Filed Under: Career Tagged With: connecting, how to use LinkedIn, LinkedIn Networking, networking, relationship building, using linkedin

You, my friend, are a victim of disorganized thinking.

February 12, 2013 by Jim Peacock Leave a Comment

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We, as career practitioners, all have the ability to be “…the great and all powerful wizard”  every day.   We must never underestimate the power of our words.   Here are 10 quotes from the classic movie The Wizard of Oz and how they translate for career practitioners.

1. Wizard of Oz to Cowardly Lion: You, my friend, are a victim of disorganized thinking. You are under the unfortunate impression that just because you run away you have no courage; you’re confusing courage with wisdom. 

When we meet with students or clients they often bring to us a preconceived picture of their career path and one of the greatest conversations we can have is helping them reframe their thinking from seeing barriers to visualizing opportunities.

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“It’s Not What You Know….” cuts both ways.

January 16, 2013 by Jim Peacock 2 Comments

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Sometimes knowing a person can be a problem.  My mother-in-law has always stated “It’s not what you know, it’s who you know.”  And I argued with her once (only once 🙂 that you also have to KNOW something AND be a good person as well. I KNOW some people and I can guarantee I would NEVER hire them!

As career counselors / advisors, we all know the power of networking and how important it is to find someone on the “inside” of a company, but that is only the first step.  I know a college student who reached out to Alumni with a clumsily written, grammatically incorrect email, that did not bode well for him. (or the college).  Or the typos on a resume / cover letter, or the lousy handshake, or even worse, bad breath.  Knowing someone is great and important, but you have less than 15 seconds in most cases to make that an advantage.

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Have you thanked your network recently?

November 20, 2012 by Jim Peacock Leave a Comment

A network is only as good as you make it.  Have you thanked anyone in your network recently?
Thanksgiving seems like a great time to show my gratefulness to a few people in my network.  I have so many people to thank that I have decided to start today with five somewhat random people in my network and simply thank them for being a part of my network.

A couple of years ago, I read a blog titled “Four Easy Network Tips fro 2011” by Shoya (see link below) that encouraged people to do four things each month to keep your network current.  These pop up on my calendar each month as a reminder I am not alone in my profession.

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